The struggle of not being XYZ

Today we are going to talk about why are you not better than XYZ!

• Out of the thousands of sperms the fastest and the fittest sperm lands in the egg

• Only a healthy fetus survives in the womb else it leads to a miscarriage

• Every pregnancy is different, some moms to be puke, some don’t, some crave for somethings, some don’t. some become too fat some gain only a few kilos.

• When a child is born, some resemble the mother or mothers side, some the father or the fathers side, some are completely different. The growth, weight, genetics and looks of the babies are different. Still XYZ sleeps throughout the night while others cry.

• Children throughout the months take their own time with Crawling, teething, speaking and walking, they are compared with others since the beginning the XYZ had taken out his teeth before, XYZ crawled first, XYZ walked first…

• In school, your name should be on the black board because XYZ is smart and intelligent

• You need to crack more than 85% because XYZ is good at maths and you need an overall good percentage

• You choose a profession and copy the footsteps of XYZ because XYZ is better than yoU

• You earn and marry because XYZ earns more than you.

• If you are a girl, XYZ is more talented, “sanskari’ and prettier than you and she would believe in an arranged marriage

• If you are a guy XYZ would always earn more than you and would marry the XYZ girl as above

• Raising your children, having a dream house, car and personality like XYZ, vacationing like XYZ

• Having a daughter in law or son in law like XYZ

• Having a wheelchair and a hospital facility like XYZ

• Having the same last rites as XYZ, same teak wood coffin maybe…

Reality check –

The XYZ may always look good, literally XYZ would have the best relationships, would look so good, would have the best of all the above but YOU don’t need to be anyone else. We have this in ourselves, we compare and get compared to so many people throughout our lives that we don’t believe in ourselves.

Its wonderful to be perfectly imperfect, little imperfections make one so beautiful. Everyone has a sad story and everyone has their own battles, baggage and failures, I bet even XYZ is imperfect. We stoop so low that we even think that someone else’s parents are better than ours! Trust me those perfect, happy and over enthusiastic parents can never be compared to our real ones because they never felt us in their arms, they never cleaned our dirty diapers and they never saw us in sickness and health.

All throughout our lives we struggle to embrace our imperfections and to get accepted, because XYZ is always appreciated and we are ignored. As a parent, child, in-law, brother, sister, boss, colleague, friend or relative CHANGE THIS TODAY. Try the following –

• Appreciate the hard work

• Criticize without hurting ones feelings

• Step yourself in some one else’s shoes and then give your royal gyan

• Don’t sprinkle your opinions everywhere

• DO NOT force your child to do stuff (like juggling with knives and breathing fire, OR like reciting poems and dancing infront of everyone, your child is not in circus)

• Stop complaining about things

• Most important - Never compare anyone with others