You're Happy...I am Happy!

And after a long time I was unwell, I was off-color this time because of the weather change, exertion, travel, stress and street food. While I just wanted to take a hot water bath and sleep, I just could not sleep. Just to give the readers a tiny little sneak peak of my idea on sleeping and rest, I would remark that sleeping is “a waste of time”. You have to open your eyes and do something or the other for the fact that you are a human being who has the sacred ability to think and express. The “something” could be as useless as writing an office email or making a to-do list or as fruitful as talking to family, friends and relatives on the phone! So sleeping according to me is the last thing on priority. I cannot sleep until I am unwell or completely worn out.

Now my eyes are swollen but I want to write. Write about all those things that make me happy, that bring a smile on my face, even when I think about them. What really makes one happy? Does it have to be big events like a promotion or marriage or a divorce may be? Or little events like finding something dear you lost earlier or an unexpected holiday at work or the most common one – when your boss is sick and you have less pressure at work!

We have a very distinctive piece inside us – our heart. It is indeed weird! I mean I have not seen anything zanier than the functioning of the human heart (psychologically that is). The reactions it gives are instantaneous. Also the greedy bastard is never happy! (Pardon my language)

So what makes the wise say – never follow your heart, do what your brain says! Because the selfish bastard (pardon my language again) wants everything that is attractive to the eye and then the vamp plays ugly politics on our acquitted brain!

Let’s take the following situations. These have been segregated for girls and boys. Take a look at them. The ones in braces are our thoughts –

Girls-

·        You see  another girl with a Gucci bag, designer pumps and a French manicure (you want all)

·        You see another girl with a perfect guy (why haven’t I found my Mr. Perfect?)

·        Your best friend gets married (am I the only one who is single?)

·        Your parents fight and nag but the neighbors never fight and their daughter goes to late night parties (why God why do I have the most irritating parents ever!)

·        You can never have that flawless hair that your classmate has and your crush remarks – I so love her hair! (I need to mix bleach in her shampoo)

Boys-

·   You did not get promoted. Your MBA batch mate is a Senior Manager and you are a team lead (@#$%%#$)

·        Your batch mates are married and have kids and you have neither (#$##%@%$$^%^@#)

·        Your boss is unfair and gives you more work than a colleague and you get less or nil appreciations than him rather he humiliates you (there is somebody up there who is watching everything!)

·        Your junior has a car and a house but you don’t (I am a loser! LOSER)

·        You kid does not consider you as the best father (Failed parent…I should be crucified)

So what makes us “compare” ourselves with others? As liberated individuals aren’t we unique and different and are supposed to do things like the way we want them to be done. Why do we think that if the other person drives a luxurious flashy car, breathes in the posh air of L.A and goes holidaying every six months to lavish places is “happy”? Are they really contented? Even if they were, we are not “them”! I would certainly not want to do what my rich uncle or celebrity aunt does for happiness! It’s my life and I know what is best for me and what makes me happy!

So be it a smile on a child’s face or your parents saying “I am proud of you beta” or a little gesture for someone who did not eat for days or financial help for someone’s future or just a shoulder to someone who cannot walk can make me happier than a luxurious holiday with a Jacuzzi, an expensive safari, or the feeling of just getting high for the sake of it! It depends from people to people! If all the rich thought that they would help all the poor then there would be no poor on the planet! But how will we differentiate in that case? Differentiation is an old habit which started from the caste system back in the 30’s! We still differentiate. We do. We feel envious of the upper cast (the girl who has a Gucci bag and the colleague who got promoted) and pity the lower (oh poor baby can’t even afford a car!). So until and unless we stop differentiating we cannot be happy and here is the answer for happiness!

For a week promise yourself to be happy for all the reasons the people who matter to you are happy. Do not resentfully wish secretly in your heart “what if I had that, instead say, I shall have that soon and work towards it! It really works and the very positivity shall bring a smile on your face!