Choices and Negotiations

The art of choosing is important. We make choices every day, we make choices everywhere. From which t-shirt to wear in the morning or drinking coffee or milk or planning your weekend and choosing a place particularly. There are deeper choices that we make with people. We have to choose what nurtures our mind and body, like we have to choose healthy food over junk we definitely have to make a choice between what is relevant and noise. We have to make a choice between people who matter and the one’s we can ignore. We have to choose between responsibilities and happiness, between personal leisure and taking care of someone, between our future and the ones who will be in it.

So how do we do that easily without being fickle and indecisive?

Well the first thing is clarity of choice. Choose one and stand by it. Once you have made your choice. Work towards it. Weigh the pros and cons and negotiate your offer, you know minor adjustments here and there so that no one’s hurt and everyone’s ok, now, we cannot really make ever one happy. There will always be that one person or maybe a couple who will let you down, loathe you for some reason and never believe in you. Treat them as, well how do I put this nicely, furniture? I mean if a tiny armless chair is on your way you can always fold it and keep it in your balcony. Make sure the chair doesn’t rot if its raining. And you know that the tiny chair id not a necessity when you have a 8-seater dining table with teak wood chairs right in your living room (your family and closest friends) OR let’s put it in this way, what do you do when you pass a garbage dump? You cover your nose with a cloth, hold your breath and carry on right? You cannot do anything about the 100-foot land full of reeking rotten dump, you can’t possible sit and start cleaning, you just cover your nose and pass it.  So the crux of my very exhaustive analogies is that you have to by default ignore some people and they do not at all form the sample of the choices you make.

So once you have a choice, stand by your choice, make a plan and start negotiating, there’s no stopping you to come to a conclusion provided you ignore the hatred and noise. But what do we do with plans? We execute them, slowly and steadily you know like Mr turtle who won the race. The indecisive lot would always think that being the first is foolishness, they would rather see the world win the race and think of “learning” from them rather “benefiting” from their mistakes but in this process they become the masses who are too late in a queue and eventually they don’t proceed because there always will be other distractions, age, or obsoleteness in their way of “waiting” and “watching” and doing “nothing” resulting in “deterioration” of skills, intellect, time and energy. A person can work for 40 years and more in an organization and contribute zilch to his intellect, that’s a nightmare your parents would have had after giving you birth and expecting you to be a great person!