The shelf life of marriage

Marriage is like a mirror. It has to be always clean and transparent, it can be broken easily, and it's reflection is reflected on families, children and the society. In this era of broken mirrors, it has become extremely easy to come out of a bad relationship or a relationship that doesn't work. But who decides what's working for them and what's not? Whose right? Whose wrong? The emotional turmoil in relationships leading to a legal rather "mutual" battle involves a lot of pain, turmoil, energy, money, embarrassment, allegations and dirt. So what does a person do when he or she is not happy with a relationship? Do they sit and adjust like an animal in a cage or do they not care about the consequences and go on with an aweful exchange of muck.

The problem is "expectations", there are some genuine troubled ones also but that's a minority these days and it has become a trend to marry and separate intentionally for money, jewellery, property, alimony and the like. The laws towards women still stand far powerful than the laws towards men. There's dowry, domestic violence, forgery, rape etc which stands like a mammoth than that of a weak man, thinking you want money? Take it but don't dilapidate my life. And that's ladies and gentlemen mutual settlement, blackmail or extortion. 

Furthermore, there is women cell which further gives a woman 6 months cooling period to plan how and when after 6 months the boy's family can be pulverized. 

I don't say all girls do that but the minority who actually suffered or are in distress, either end their life or actually fight in court till they are old. That's the plight of real cases who suffer real domestic violence and the like. 

What has changed? 

The business model! The model has changed entirely from olden times where our mothers were mostly house wives and the father was the "man of the family". The woman was given a monthly something to run the house. She cleaned, raised the kids, cooked and did chores everyday. They went shopping for clothes etc 2-3 times or less in a year. The man was worshipped and everything depended on his mood, whims and fancies. He could be barberic, he could be nice to her! But there were rules. Rules for a woman. They went out for a holiday in nearby places like shimla and mussoorie. Travel was not vacay with my girlfriend's friends from a luxurious beach resort to Goa, dubai or Maldives with insta pictures of women in shorts and bandanas sipping on beer and cocktails, pub-hoppinh and getting a spa leaving their children behind to be taken care by nannies and in laws or the husband himself. Luxuries were way way less. There were were no cupboards full of clothes and accessories, there were very few brands for wellness and care, there was no swiggy or Zomato, no shopping malls, no online shopping, no mobiles, no laptops, no shoe racks full of shoes, no walking wardrobes, the women didnt talk about sanitry pads, sex was a taboo, Western wear was also a tabboo in a lot of families, smoking and drinking was a tabboo, everything was a taboo. Lol 

The PRESENT

Women are wayyy wayyyyyyy superior than men now. They are highly educated. They are smart, they work, they are CEOs, they are on the moon, in the courts, in hospitals, in goverment offices, in parliament's, in schools, in offices and practically every where but at home just cooking and cleaning. They earn and they think they cannot be taught how to live. Adjustment is difficult. Compromising is not easy for them. If the way they were treated by their parents is way differnt than the treatment they get from the in laws, they speak. They find their place, make it and sit on it like a BOSS! They raise their voice when required, they drive and abuse, they follow laws, they pay tax! Hence separation is easy when things dont go thier way and it has been made easy because they are EQUAL and they are not bound to take any nonsense.

So I have proved my point here. If we are equal, smarter and brighter than men, Do we need their alimony, their money, their property? I don't think so. If you're in a bad relationship, get out! Start afresh and carry on with the same de. Never play the woman card and try to remove the blotch and the stereotype people have been making for a few bad fish have spoiled the whole pond.